How to find what you want

What do you want to be when you grow up? It’s a question we’re asked time and again over the years. Our parents are first up, the answer aged five almost always coming in at ‘spaceman’ or ‘Disney Princess’. By the time we’re 14, when it’s our teachers doing the asking, we’ve done our time with the school careers mentor and set our sights on lives as lawyers and vets.

As adults, we’re the ones doing the asking. Most of us are still waiting to feel like grown-ups and even more of us aren’t quite sure what we want to be when we are one. To lend a helping hand, here are our tips on finding your purpose and deciding what you want, even if you know you’ll never feel 100% grown-up. Because where’s the fun in that?


Knowing what you want is the first step in getting what you want. Doubters may write it off as new age spiel but life coaching is a fast-track way to finding your purpose and deciding what you want. Your mentor could be the person who is already smashing that career you have your eye on or it could just be someone capable of kicking your butt into finally getting some goals down on paper. However they help you, a mentor has a strange way of helping you negotiate your way through the life fog to put things into perspective when it comes to where – and what – you want to be.


Sometimes it’s easier to know what you don’t want than what you do. Think of it like deciding what you want to eat; discounting the dishes you don’t like from a menu makes it far easier to spot the ones that whet your appetite doesn’t it? Do you want to be based in an office? No? Maybe remote working or setting up camp in a co-working space might be more your vibe. Don’t want to be responsible for staff? Then what about giving freelancing a go, that way you only have to worry about yourself. Think about what you don’t want and what you do want might just be left right there staring you straight in the face.


Finding what you want means knowing what you value most and want more of. Would going self-employed let you leave the rigid 9-to-5 behind and give you more time with the kids? Do you value a better work-life balance enough to ask your manager to let you give remote working a go? Or do you value a hobby enough to turn your passion into your full-time gig? Once you know what you’re working for, you’ll be willing to put in the work to get there.

Join us here at the Helm for our monthly Doncaster.Digital Creative & Entrepreneur Meetup for an informal night of setting goals and eating pizza. It’s the first step towards breaking down the barriers between you and what you want.

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